Staying In Your Lane

Staying In Your Lane

This past week, I sat down with a dear friend who set me straight. She is a friend who speaks truth even when it’s hard. An iron sharpens iron kind of friend. We all need one (or two) like this. It’s good for our souls…whether we like it or not.

Lately, I have been running high on emotions and strong opinions have been flying out of my mouth and I didn’t even realize it.


My dear friend listened as I talked to her about “my opinions” and the realization that my heart was in a mess. She gracefully listened and when I was done she said, “You need to stay in your own lane.”

And there it was. Bam! (And ouch)


Everything inside of me wanted to defend myself and not take full ownership of my pride, my control…my sin.

I genuinely do love people, especially those I am close with and I desire God’s absolute best for them and their lives. I don’t want them to stumble and fall. I don’t want destruction and sin to overtake their lives. I don’t want to see them go down a path that God never intended.





Ladies – I know I am not alone here. And sometimes it comes out in very ugly ways. How many of us are covered in frustration because we believe we know what’s “best” for everyone else around us? In fact, we know better than they do about their own lives, right??!

I have been trying to run someone else’s race that God never intended me to run. When I jump lanes, I am left burdened, weighted and upset because it’s not going the way “I” think it should.

My own personal life lesson today…We are fooling ourselves if we believe we know better than the Creator Himself. And chances are, there is a deeper issue going on within us that is causing us to jump lanes in the first place.

I realized that at the root of my frustration is control, pride, and a lack of trust that God will take care of them…even if they mess up. He has taken care of me plenty of times when I have messed up. In fact, He’s doing it right now as I write this post.


We were created to run our race with EVERY stumble. EVERY fall. EVERY bad decision…so that we can get back up, chasing hard after Jesus again…and again…and AGAIN. This was one of those stumbling moments for me. I’m getting back up though…and I’m looking ahead towards Him.

Let’s love those around us when they stumble. Encourage them and run beside them. Pray for them. Speak the truth in LOVE when it needs to be spoken allowing the Holy Spirit to guide us. Maybe they will receive it, maybe they won’t. Ultimately it’s NOT up to you or me. Release them into our Father’s hands and LET IT GO.

So…will you come along side me? Lets stay in our lanes, love like Jesus, and FINISH WELL.

Then when we finish our race, we will hear Him say, “Well done good and faithful servant.”


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1 Comment

  1. Wow, I love this! I have gotten over my need to tell others what to do, or at least in the area of friendships, but still need to handle things with my daughter a little differently. I’m so afraid to let her stumble and fall, and yet, my greatest growth towards God has been during those times I struggled. I need to remember not to get in God’s way! Thanks for a great post.


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