My Prodigal Husband

My Prodigal Husband

Before I even begin this post, I want you to know that I have full permission from my beloved husband to share this with you today. Every word written in this post has been approved by my one and only…and I appreciate his willingness to allow me to be so transparent in the hope to bring encouragement to someone who needs to hear it. Love you babe!

Now onto my post…

It was a beautiful day in June, 2001, the day we said “I DO”. Every single detail I had planned for the last year had come to life! From the beautiful bushels of off white roses trimmed in pink to the blush colored bridesmaids’ dresses (9 to be exact!). The music was heavenly with the warmth of candles everywhere. The dress…well, it was off white satin and the top of the bodice draped in jewels…it was stunning. It only took me 500 hundred other dresses too pick the perfect one (I KNOW some of you can relate- lol!).

The intro to “Hear Comes the Bride” began to play. The doors flung open and I made my way down the long center aisle. All eyes were on me, especially from the guy at the end…he was my prize. There stood my prince, my best friend, the love of my life…the one God had perfectly planned for me.


Scott was my college sweetheart. He was handsome, charming, smart and he loved God. He was one of the reasons I had grown so much in my relationship with the Lord at that time. He had a love and a reverence for God that I had never seen in a male before-it was contagious. I wanted a husband like that…So, I snatched him up.

There we stood before our friends and family and our God declaring our love and our promise to each other. We even wrote our own vows filled with promise and truth of what was to come.

We had made a covenant that would not be broken…for better or worse, until death do us part. It was a marriage in pursuit of God being the absolute center. A marriage that would reflect Christ in every way…A marriage that would be built on Scott being the strong spiritual leader of our home, raising our future children to know Jesus…A marriage where we would run our race together. I knew that life may not always be perfect, but with God at the center, we were sure to succeed.

That day was a dream come true for me. Little did I know how my life would change and my vows would be tested…

Fast forward about 8 years and my life was turned upside down.

All that I had planned, dreamed and desired to have in a marriage had been stolen by endless doubt, harassing questions and ultimately Scott walking away from God. He had become my prodigal husband.

We were now a house divided, not a home of unity…

No more spiritual leader. No more praying together. No more God being the center of our marriage. No more leading small groups together. No more praying with our children before bed. No more dreams of running our race together.

The day Scott walked away, I grieved. I grieved as if he had died. I would have never imagined that our life would change so drastically. For months we struggled to make it work. The hurt, the grief, the sadness, the anger, the division, it was all too much. We were like two roommates living under one roof and we were on very different roads now. The more I went left, the more he went right. The more I grew closer to God, the more he went further away. We had always said divorce was NEVER an option, but suddenly that word was being tossed around like the words “I love you” use to be. Neither one of us were sure we would survive…


I have spent countless hours in prayer and on my knees over this prodigal husband of mine. I have learned what it means to go to battle. I have learned what it means to be a prayer warrior (a term I thought was for all those “super spiritual” people). I have learned grace, unconditional love and patience. But above all that, I have learned the faithfulness of my God. He’s been so good even in the midst of this hardship. I would not be who I am today without this trial. I can honestly say I am grateful for how God has used every piece to shape and mold me into who I am today. I have been in the deep dark of hopelessness, but I have also seen great light. I have seen God move, heal and restore my marriage in countless ways and I have full expectation to see more!


Fast forward another 8 years…and here we are. Things are not perfect and we are still a house divided, but we have learned and continue to learn grace and unconditional love. We will celebrate 15 years of marriage in just a few weeks, and looking back, I wasn’t even sure we would ever get here. We have experienced more valleys then I would like to admit over these last eight years, but there have been beautiful mountain tops too! We have three incredible kids, two of which have come to know Jesus- Amen! I am just praying for my three year old son to sit still long enough to even hear from God! Lol!

My husband is incredibly supportive of all that I do with women’s ministry, leading worship and letting me continue to pour Jesus into my children. For that I am forever grateful.

This post is for the woman who has a “prodigal husband” or maybe a husband who has never even known the Lord and you are in the midst of the fight…DO NOT GIVE UP.

DO NOT GIVE UP believing that your God is ABLE.
DO NOT GIVE UP praying for your husband who desperately needs your prayers.
DO NOT GIVE UP when you are weary and want to bail out.
DO NOT GIVE UP in seeing God do what ONLY he can do.
DO NOT GIVE UP when the battle is raging…. you have an enemy who is out for your husband, out for your marriage and out for your family.
DO NOT GIVE UP because he is WORTH it.


Had I given up years ago, I am not sure what my life would have looked like. But I know this for sure… I wouldn’t have had my beautiful son, who is now three years old. I daily get to see the incredible relationship between my son and his daddy. Scott absolutely adores him. And it is a beautiful picture and reminder of the Father’s love for His son…His prodigal son.



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  1. This was written for ME Cheryl! I have no doubt He led this to be written and published at this exact time for me. Literally minutes ago I was spoken to by my prodigal husband in a way that was so defeating and painful I felt hopeless. Literally minutes ago! And then I read this! Holy Spirit will You never cease to amaze me?!

  2. Praise God I do not have a prodigal husband but I am very weary!! This gives such hope in the midst of not knowing what God is doing. Thank you Lord Jesus for an honest and real heart on this earth so that we can be encouraged until we arrive in our heavenly home!!!

  3. This came at the perfect time for me as well. I am not married to mine so it makes it easier for other people to say just walk away while you still can but even when I want to give up, I don’t want to give up…if that makes any sense. I have always known there is a purpose for this relationship & I want to fight for it, for him, because it will be worth it in the end! Sometimes it is so hard though & I really needed this encouragement today. Thank you!!!

  4. Thank you. I am weary and was about to give up. Our Lord always knows what to give us.

  5. I have been standing in the gap, it has only been 2 weeks but it feels like years. Everyday he is away I feel torchered. I still rise in the morning and pray. I still pray in my head at work, or in the restroom, or on break in my car.

    I still pray in the middle of the night when getting up to use the restroom due to the 2 1/2 month pregnancy.

    I am so tired, and drained most days.

    Thank you so much for this reminder.

    God bless

    • Thank you so much for reaching out. I am praying that TODAY you can REST in the Lord. The battle is NOT yours to fight and I do not believe God wants you to stay in a constant state of weariness. I absolutely know there are weary moments when we long for God to move and long for prayers to be answered- but he tells us in the word:
      Matthew 11:28-30
      “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

      Even in the midst of waiting, hoping, praying- we can find rest in JESUS. Today- release your burdens – declare
      The LORD will fight for ME; I need only to be still.”-Exodus14:14

      Keep praying. Keep Seeking. Keep Resting and TRUST God with all of it. He loves you beyond measure and he longs for your husband to come to Him…even more than you do.

      I pray blessing upon you and your sweet little one -that you can enjoy this time as you wait in expectancy to meet him/her.

      Many Blessings-
      BG Cheryl

    • My husband walked away from God and our family 12/22/17. I miss him desperately but have placed him in Gods hands.
      I can relate to how you are feeling.
      I also have been led to stand for our marriage trusting the Lord to restore in His timing.
      I will pray for you!

  6. I recently married my husband and before that maybe the end of last year or beginning of this year he did the salvation prayer with our pastor. When we got married saying our vows I believe he knew what he was doing He did a reading also. I was so proud of him and still am. Our wedding has touched alot of people’s hearts. There’s been times he has read abit of scripture then there’s been a huge gap. But I pray for him to want to read Lords word and worship To fall in love with Jesus . He does support my faith but it still feels abit one sided instead of how its meant to be us together . I do battle with this and do pray but it just feels forever at this point I want so desperately to be more patient and how God wants me to be. I’ve been with him from 2014 so it’s been a long time.

    • Thank you for your honesty and for sharing your heart Lyn. I know it’s hard. One thing I also know is that there is always hope in any situation when Jesus is involved. Keep praying for your husband. That’s the best thing you can do for him. In the meantime, Run your race and let God take care of the outcome for each of your walks. And a side thought…rarely are any of us ever on the same spiritual walk. It’s so individualistic to each of us. God might be teaching you something through all of this. I don’t know but hang in there and don’t quit until the miracle happens. Praise Him all the way through. There’s nothing like worship to activate God’s power in our lives. Thanks for taking the time to read our page and comment. We really appreciate your support! –

  7. God’s presence in life makes it easier to tread along.If both partners are inclined towards God/Jesus to save their lives from misfortune or mishaps, it is more likely that both will have heavenly blessings throughout which none can match.If by any chance the duo fall apart eclipsing God’s domain, then misery is bound to creep into normal life.

  8. I didn’t realize I would have a prodigal husband, until a few months ago. We got married a year and a half ago, and it’s been a battle. Now I am in the middle of a divorce with a baby and I don’t know where else to turn to but the Lord. Thank you for sharing your testimony, it is literally a lifeline for me now. I don’t know how, but I am believing that God will turn his heart around and bring him back to the cross. I pray for God’s strength and for his mercy.

    • Hi Tomi, Thank you for sharing your heart. I’m so sorry for what you are going through. We are joining in prayer alongside your situation… praying for God to sustain you, strengthen you, comfort you, and give you wisdom and guidance as you navigate through these difficult times. Please keep us posted on how you are doing. -Christy ( or


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