It’s About Time

It’s About Time

I am constantly in need of more time.  I can’t believe how quickly the Christmas season went by…there are still presents I need to buy…and it is almost March.  I started this post in January and just couldn’t seem to find the time to work on it – until today.  A few short hours ago my brother Ben and his wife Amy had their first baby – a beautiful little girl named Leah.  As soon as it really hit me:  my little brother is a Dad (and after I had a really good cry), I couldn’t help but feel the need to make the time to complete this post for them.

I am really good at finding the time to do things that don’t take any effort, such as watching The Bachelor, wandering around the Nordstrom shoe department looking for the perfect pair of shoes (preferably on sale), sitting around scrolling through Facebook or pinning beautiful decorating and craft projects to my dream boards on Pinterest.  I excel at wasting away the hours, only to complain the next day that I do not have any time left to do the things that really matter.

As is the case with most everything I have written, what I had down a few weeks ago is completely different from what I am writing today.  This post basically began as a list of complaints on how hard it is for me to find the time to do everything I need to do.  But as a parent, daughter, sister, aunt and friend, my time isn’t all about me.

The truth is that we have all been given plenty of time…what we really need is to learn how to best spend the time God has given us.

Loving and caring for your child, or anyone for that matter, isn’t about the things you give them – when it comes down to it is your time they crave and desire.  I spend a good bit of time regretting all of the moments I missed with my girls, family and friends because addiction stole them from me.  But, regretful thinking isn’t something I want to give time to anymore.  Of course, I want to remember my past in order to stay grounded in my recovery; but I can’t regret – it is one of the things that has helped shape me into the woman I am today and for that I am thankful.  I love this passage in Esther and should remind myself of it more often…and perhaps it is exactly what I should have tattooed on my forearm (don’t tell my Mom)…

Perhaps this is the moment for which you have been created. Esther 4:14

Each and every moment…from this moment on.

Time just sitting quietly with a loved one, time spent listening and time sharing special moments…time is one of the greatest gifts we can give anyone.  Time is priceless.  In His infinite wisdom (that I really should not question as often), God has given me more time…in fact, God has given me exactly the amount of time I need.  He has given it to all of us.

Ben and Amy, the best parenting advice I can give you is to really enjoy and take in every moment with Leah that God has given you.

All of them…

When you are up with her at 3:00 a.m. and feel as though you haven’t slept in days – remember the love you felt when you first saw her and it will get you through those long nights.

When she’s four and throws up on the floor…and while you are cleaning it up, she leans over the bed and pukes on your head – laugh (and then laugh again when you are still cleaning it out of your ear two days later).

When she’s seven and you refuse to buy her that camouflage hat in Alvin’s Island that says “Buck Off” and she declares you the Meanest Mommy and Daddy in the World, stand proud…it’s like a club (listen for a silent round of applause from other members…I’m one, several times over in fact).

And…God help you…if she takes after me and calls you from college one day to beg for money because she spent all she had on a designer handbag or pair of shoes, forgive her (and me) and send the poor girl some cash…then have her call me so we can squeal together with delight over her new (albeit irresponsible) purchase.

Finally, remember God will never give you more than you can handle and has equipped you with everything you need to be Leah’s parents.  My favorite speaker and author, Andy Stanley, once said, “Your greatest contribution to the kingdom of God may not be something you do, but someone you raise.”  I have a feeling you are going to do an amazing job of helping Leah become the woman God created her to be.

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Enjoy every single moment with your precious little girl because in the end, it is all about time.

Time is very slow for those who wait. Very fast for those who are scared.  Very long for those who lament.  Very short for those who celebrate.  But for those who love, time is eternal.  – William Shakespeare


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