Oh, the laborious task of editing a selfie before posting to Instagram. Am I right, ladies? Blemish remover, add a tan, maybe a little makeup. Air brush and adjust shadowing. I’ve been known to even slenderize an arm or two. Heck, just for kicks you can even do a little face swap with a pretty friend or celebrity. Surely I’m not the only one who’s ever wondered what my hair looks like on Kris Jenner’s face?
The reliance on filters to create a better version of ourselves is an epidemic, and it goes way past the finishing touches we put on a photo. The “I woke up like this” facade carries over into our relationships and how we present ourselves.
We walk into a room full of other women and not only begin immediately critiquing ourselves against everyone else, but we have a way of putting on our best face and instantly transforming into someone who can fit in and be liked. How quickly we can go from the frazzled woman who was yelling at our husband on the phone one minute before, to the social butterfly who can cheerfully compliment a stranger’s highlights, while in the next breath volunteering to set up a meal train for another lady who just had a baby. Heaven forbid anyone know we are already maxed out or just really want to be at home in bed.
What if at our next girls’ night out or bible study, we resolved to use no filter? That is, we take the messy woman that God created us to be (and loves so dearly, I might add) and laid her out on the table. Be honest about our struggles. Be real. Be relatable.
I have never felt a stronger connection to someone than when they are sharing their testimony with me. I admire the woman who is brave enough to stand up in front of a room and talk about her brokenness and God’s redeeming power over her life. The woman who resolves to use the hard and the ugly in her life to help someone else understand they aren’t alone in theirs. The woman who’s walked through drug abuse, an eating disorder or bitterness over a loss, and is willing to stand up and say, “I’ve struggled with this; now whom can I walk alongside on their path?”
Here’s the thing: we all struggle. No matter how perfect our makeup is, how on trend our outfits are, or how big our smile is, we are all imperfect beings dwelling together on an imperfect earth. All a filter does is mask the imperfections that we all have and create a false projection of perfection, which no one can relate to. So why do we continue to isolate ourselves from genuine community by wearing our masks? Since we all wear them, why don’t we all agree to take them off at the same time? I’ll take mine off first if it means it will give you the courage to follow suit.
It’s scary taking that first step, but the rewards are unifying, and, sister, they are freeing.
I encourage you to take off the mask, erase the filters, and embrace the fearfully, wonderfully created YOU. Be a trailblazer for other strong, confident women.
And while you’re at it, delete the slenderize app.