The Church, My LGBT Story, and How Love Really Wins

The Church, My LGBT Story, and How Love Really Wins

I am in a unique position today. As I read and hear opinions from opposing sides of the Supreme Court’s decision on same sex marriage, my heart gets it…from both sides. My position is unique because I identified myself as a lesbian and was part of the LGBT community for several years, yet I am now married to a wonderful man and together we have a beautiful son.

I would like to apologize for Christians who are not acting like Christians towards the LGBT community. It is not anyone’s job to condemn. God’s word tells us we have ALL fallen short of the glory of God. I have no right or authority to consider myself better or more righteous than anyone else. For it is by God’s grace alone that I have been saved, through faith, which is not of myself. It is a gift of God so that I cannot boast for what I’ve done (Ephesians 2:10).

My Story

Because of my own past, I believe I have a great understanding of the hearts of those who are living within the LGBT community. When I read their thoughts, I totally get it, and my heart aches. They just want to be heard and want to love the person they love. They want that love recognized just as heterosexual love is recognized. They can’t help the way they were born. They didn’t choose it, it chose them. What is wrong with loving someone? After all…GOD. IS. LOVE. He CREATED it! Those are the same thoughts and words that came out of my mouth for several years. I knew I was born gay. I was the girl who hated wearing dresses and begged my mom for a San Diego Charger’s football uniform when I was 6 years old. My favorite thing to do was play tackle football, turn my G.I. Joe men into ruthless warriors, beat the boys in sports, walk, talk, and dress like a little dude. I was all “boy” yet I was still a girl.

So I get where the LGBT community is coming from because I was once a huge part of it. I lived the lesbian lifestyle for years and appreciated and valued everything it stands for. To this day, I have many LGBT friends and I adore them because they are beautiful people on the inside and out. Several have been in long lasting loving relationships with one another and have exemplified a strong commitment to each other for years. I believe it is possible to do that. But I also believe there’s more to it than that.

When it comes to my own personal journey as a lesbian, my parents and friends knew about it and I was free to live how I wanted to live. But something happened to me. I had developed into an alcoholic. I started going to Alcoholics Anonymous and was in and out of A.A. for a few years until I finally came to a place of complete brokenness and surrender. It was there that I began to rely on God in every moment of my life in order to stay sober. My sponsor in A.A. recommended not dating anyone while getting sober so that I wouldn’t shift my dependency from alcohol over to another person. She was well aware of how I identified myself and loved and accepted me anyway. I’ll forever be grateful for that. Her main concern was that I focused on God and healing. I didn’t dream where it would take me, but I knew it was working. I was staying sober. It was through that sobriety that I started discovering things about myself that I had never looked at before…ways I viewed men and women.

I saw great strength and power in the male gender and that’s what I wanted to possess. But I also rejected men because I didn’t trust, respect, or value them because of what I had witnessed in my life, different ways men had devalued women. I vowed that would not happen to me and I saw no use for men. I knew I could be successful without a man and would never have to deal with being hurt by one.

Then there was the other part of me that never felt good enough as a female. I rejected many facets of my femininity because I equated them with weakness. I held onto some of those feminine traits because I didn’t want to embarrass my family, or those traits didn’t show too much weakness, or they gave me power in some way. I came to rely on those qualities for success in many areas of my life. But when I saw women that possessed qualities I lacked, I was attracted to them…qualities that were nurturing, gentle, vulnerable, loving, feminine, and beautiful. When I received attention from those females it made me feel important. The more attention I could receive, the more value I felt within myself. Plus, it was easier. I clicked easily with women because they thought, in many ways, the same way I did…because they were women. Also, I TRUSTED women. They were SAFE. That connection also made me feel validated because of that internal rejection within myself about my own femininity. Plus, women were loyal. Not so self-seeking as I believed men to be. And I would be the protector and strong one…the one always in control.

biblepicAs I continued my journey in staying sober and focusing on God, He began softening my heart towards men. As I grew in Him and my heart began healing, I was able to forgive men that I witnessed hurting others. I also made amends with men that I myself hurt and used for my own selfish gain. As that process continued I began to value men and see how special they really are and how they complement women just as women complement men. I also had the gift of witnessing Godly men around me who were amazing husbands to their wives. They displayed the biblical view of how a husband is to treat his wife. I saw their wives displaying Godly character as well towards their husbands. I couldn’t believe it, my thoughts were changing. My respect and value in men and in marriage began increasing. Along with that, I began to see myself as God sees me. The more I understood who He is, the more I understood who I am in Him. I am fearfully and wonderfully made, the daughter of the One True King. Beautiful. Radiant.

God’s Plan

I began to realize that God created men and women to BOTH serve a great purpose. We were BOTH CREATED IN HIS IMAGE, and TOGETHER, when unified with one another, we represent the full of image of God and His relationship with us. That was such a new revelation to me. I never fully understood that until I began to study His word.

Genesis 1:27 “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

A little later in Genesis 2:24, God says, “a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Marriage is an earthly tangible example of God displayed among us. It also shows the beauty of how much He loves us and wants to dwell among us because He is going through US to represent HIM. God created love so that we could experience Him and use that experience to glorify Him. The way we glorify Him is using love the way He intended it to be used…to represent Him.

In Matthew 19:4, Jesus was talking to Pharisees about questions they had regarding divorce. Although the supreme court’s decision does not pertain to divorce but to same sex marriage, Jesus is reaffirming God’s divine creation. Jesus himself said, “Haven’t you read, that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, ‘for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but ONE. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

This was a very powerful statement by Jesus because He not only reaffirmed what God said hundreds of years prior, but he excluded any deviation from God’s original design by clearly stating man and woman. There’s no other way around that statement. He didn’t say, “A man will leave his mother and father and be united with the person he loves.” Jesus was/is all knowing because He was/is the Son of God. He knew what was to come in the future and that there would be this concept of sexual orientation. All He has to say is a man will be united with his wife and that excludes all other forms of two people becoming one flesh, and that’s exactly what He said.

There is also another divine representation of marriage that absolutely cannot be dismissed. A repeated theme occurs throughout the bible referring to the church as the bride of Christ and as Christ as the bridegroom.

A marriage between a man and woman represents the love between Christ and the church, where He gave himself up for her.

In Ephesians Chapter 5, Paul is talking to husbands and wives. He reaffirms just as Jesus did, as he repeats the scripture in Genesis stating “For this reason, man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh.” Then Paul goes on to say, “This is a profound mystery, but I am talking about Christ and the Church.”

And in Revelation 21, this chapter refers to the coming wedding between Christ, the bridegroom, and the church, His bride.

Marriage is the communion WITH God and the image OF God and the symbolic representation of His Son Jesus’ loving union with the church, His people. This is a repeated theme throughout the bible.

Any of us can deviate from God’s sexual design in many other ways other than just homosexuality. God has given us free will to do so. The terms “hetersosexual, homosexual, transgender, and many other forms of gender identity or sexual orientation that exist, are all man made terms. God made us sexual beings who, when unified, were meant to represent Him and His relationship with us. We must be careful to respect The Artist’s design. Afterall, HE created US.

Jesus paid a price so that we could live free of shame and condemnation so that we could be of service to God. Because of that, I can live in a peace and freedom that allows me to love others just as He loves us. Loving Him also means obeying Him and respecting His word because God IS the word.

John 1:1 “In the beginning was the Word, and the word was with God, and the Word was God”

Jesus said, “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.” John 14:23

Love Really Wins

edgeofrockoverwoodsIf we love Him, we will desire to keep His word. We will not be perfect in doing so because we are sinners incapable of living out a perfect life. That’s why we need Him in our lives. That’s why He gives us grace and His mercies are made new every morning. I personally will mess up every day. But as I put Him first in my life, He continues to transform different parts of me into the likeness of Him. That’s why I need Him in my life daily. He IS my daily bread. I cannot be transformed without Him. Apart from Him, I can do nothing according to His will, because apart from Him, I am a sinner and will carry out every sin I want. Today, I want Him to be my daily bread because I have experienced how good He is. The fruit of putting Him first in my life is by far greater than any other way I have ever lived.

Jesus sat at the table and dined with sinners hoping they would see something different in Him, something better, something especially beautiful, and choose His way over their own. That’s what He wants us to do today.

If you are a skeptic or not a believer in Christ Jesus as the son of God, what I’m saying may not resonate with you. God’s word tells me this in 1 Corinthians 2:14, “The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.” I highly recommend you research the word of God. The more I have studied Him, the more I understand His divine plan on this earth and the more His Sovereignty astounds me.

Today, I sit here blown away by the work God has done in my life. Ten years ago, I would never have imagined I would be sitting here writing these words about who God is and how He has transformed my life. There are many moments, especially as I cook dinner with my husband or enjoy the sweet embrace of my son’s hugs that melt me to no end, I shake my head in disbelief. He can do the same in yours if you let Him.

If you are in disagreement with how God has designed marriage, please know that I love you in the midst of our disagreement. I realize this post may cause me to lose friends simply because of my stance on marriage. I hope that’s not the case. I’m not here to stir up trouble. I’m here to kick it and experience life to the fullest. For me that consists of being transformed into the likeness of Christ so that others may know Him through my example. He loves and because I love Him and want to be like Him, I love too. That means you’re included because He loves you and therefore, so do I.

Love. Really. Does. Win.

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65 Comments

  1. What a wonderful testimony about our loving God! may He continually bless you in your walk with Him.

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    • Thanks to everyone for taking the time to read and comment about my post. Whether you agree or disagree I appreciate your respectful comments as well as the supportive ones. It means more than you know. Much Love, Christy

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    • Thank you so much for this post!!! I heard many years ago an interview with Billy Grahman that helped me immensely with my view on this matter. He simply stated that we are all guilty of sin, we are all in need of salvation, we all need Jesus! We need to, instead of standing in judgement, stand in love! Our responsibility as a Christian community is to radiate His love so ALL will see Him through us, He will take it from there! We are a new creation in Christ Jesus! I am much more interested in making sure EVERYONE knows they are loved with a love that literally moved haven and earth! A love that told death it had NO power! A love so great that the grave could NOT hold it back!

      God has created a way for ALL to enter in! His Name is Jesus!

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  2. Hi, Christy. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You’re right; your position is unique. I learned a lot reading this post, and I want to celebrate with you…not because of how you do or don’t identify, but because of your relationship with Jesus Christ. It really is amazing what happens when we enter true relationship with Him. I’m surprised and amazed, too, by where I am as compared with where I used to be. I’m happy you’re happy. Happiness is always a nice bonus. May God continue to bless and keep your family.

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  3. So happy for you that God intervened. I pray daily that my granddaughter who is presently in a lesbian relationship,will somehow be touched by the Holy Spirit and follow in your footsteps.

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  4. Wow. Praise God in your life, brave Girl, yet a woman of God

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  5. God have never made a mistake in creation…
    Yiu are either created male or female…
    Your mind tells you you are born gay or lesbian…
    God’s word declares you were created without flaw…
    Stop this nonsense of trying to justfy sin…
    The bible is clear on the issue of sin and its wages… gayism and lesbiansm is sin…
    You practice sin, you are living in disobedience… you challenge God’s authority and order… your defiance leads to eternal separation from God..
    No amount of white wash and justification will change the Word of God…
    The clarity of the wages of sin allows us clear choices…
    Self pity will not justify etrnal life…
    Repent or be forever separatedd from God…
    Love is allowing you time for repentance…
    The opportunity is now for salvation…
    Use it or lose it…

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    • lol did you even read the article

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    • Seriously…. You didn’t read past the first few sentences! Geez!

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    • Please read the article…

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  6. You are such a brave girl. So glad you are so open with your story. It is an honor to be your friend. Love does win when we show love to all no matter their story.

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  7. Love your heart. Love your transparency. Great blog. Thank you…

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  8. Thanks for sharing this to the world. Your words come from love and the Lord Anyone who reads this will be touched.

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  9. Thank you! I needed this today!!

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  10. thank you, thank you, thank you. i’m a simple pastor … trying…

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  11. PFOX has hundreds if not thousands of videos of brave people young, old and In between telling amazing stories like yours Praise God!!!!! Thank you, for reaching out…… May God be the Glory in your testimony……and for the world to see…God heals all and Loves all people (All people who are sinners) We have all fallen short and need a savior Amen

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  12. My husband was once very Christian and married a woman who later identified as a lesbian. She cheated on him multiple times until they finally divorced. I don’t think denying who you are is healthy and may end up hurting people. Sexual identity certainly doesn’t need to be set in stone from birth to death but telling people to leave their true feelings behind to embrace one religion and one ideology is just wrong. It doesn’t help people. It hurts them. It’s why there is an increasing push to ban gay conversion therapy. Treating gays and lesbians as unnatural and wrong has led to innumerable murders, suicides, and acts of violence. Sorry, but telling someone you love and care for them while telling them their feelings are unnatural and sinful isn’t being a good Christian. Just live and let live. I love and care for my gay friends without ever telling them how to be because that is the most compassionate act I can perform. I don’t really have a moral authority on anything. I am not religious and issues like this prove why organized religion is on the decline in this country.

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    • Hi SBean I appreciate you taking the time to read my post and share your thoughts. I’m not trying to tell anyone what to do, I wanted to simply share my story and tell others what has happened in my life. I didn’t expect God to intervene the way he did. I believe though that when we open our hearts up to Him, he will do immeasurably more than we can ask or imagine. We have to be open to Him though. Thanks again for your considerate response and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate you taking the time to read it and respectfully disagree. best wishes to you. -Christy

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  13. The story is beautiful and hopefully will be read by LGBT. I disagree with one thing, though. People are not born that way. God does not make people gay. In your own story, you told why you were, because of bad experiences. Because of the recent ruling, children are going to be more confused about their sexuality than ever and will probably try anything and everything. I hope your personal story reaches many people. It is a testimony God wants shared. Thank you.

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    • Well, here’s one LGBT reader. I’m filing this article away with the other propaganda pieces that only resonate within the evangelical Christian echo chamber. Grats on finding a spiritual paradigm that suits you and makes you happy, Christy. As long as you don’t force that paradigm onto others, as most of your readers here most certainly would like to do, we can both be happy.

      Gay people can get married in America, so we both have options. Love. Already. Won.

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      • Thanks for taking the time to read it. I’m confused on why my personal story and spirituality is put in your propaganda file though. Does that mean anytime a person who shares his/her personal story it’s propaganda?

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        • “As long as you don’t force that paradigm onto others, as most of your readers here most certainly would like to do, we can both be happy.” Yikes. This is where (what I call) the militant gay agenda hypocrisy shines through. Very sad to read that “love” is only “love” when you agree with THEM. So I was encouraged by your lesbian friend here who posted a positive, thoughtful, loving comment even though she may disagree with you. THAT is how we should behave towards one another. Sadly, the conversations and comments get uglier every time I read blogs like this as well as articles/blogs by Christians who support gay marriage and like to call us names. I really enjoyed your post and all you had to say. Thank you so much for sharing of yourself and for being so honest. I had my own sexual sins to contend with and I am also very humbled and thankful that God did not allow me to be consumed or defined by my past but instead chose me as His own and is daily perfecting me! My life verses: 2 Peter 3:13-18. On my guard and growing! – Linda

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          • Hi Linda, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and for sharing your thought-filled comments. I appreciate your insight into the other comments and also sharing about God’s work in your own life. That’s what it’s all about…being honest. Thanks again for taking the time to read and share your thoughts. Blessings to you, Christy

  14. Thank you for sharing. I pray that others come to know God and His plan for our lives just as you have. We all face many temptations, Just as you said, and we must all learn to control desires that are not consistent with Gods will. When desires seem natural and we do not know how or why we struggle with our own personal temptation we must still strive to live in accordance with Gods plan and instruction. Temptation can seem as though we are born with it, In some cases there may be genetic issues effecting desire but consider that God does not desire for any of us to be born with any sort of deformity but it happens. It happens because of our collective sins, as a good friend of mine says “it happens because of Adam” or rather “God didn’t make you this way…Adam did”. Sin corrupted the perfect design of God. Even heterosexuals face strong sexual temptation that is ungodly and sinful. We are sexual by nature but we must all control our thoughts and desires. I pray that with the connections and influence you have that you will be blessed by God and have the opportunity to share your “testimony” with others around you. Thank you for having the courage to share this and May God bless you in your walk with Him.

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  15. Thank you so much for allowing our gracious God to use what he has done in your life to benefit so many, including myself.

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  16. You are so brave and compassionate, Christy! I pray others will read this and be softened, rather than hateful. You’re a good friend!

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  17. Jesus’ love shines thru you, Christy. Thank you for sharing your story. God bless you and your family :).

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  18. Thank you for sharing your story; you helped me to be able to see things as written in the Bible. I won’t say I totally agree OR disagree…I have a number of friends who are in gay or lesbian relationships and they are just a spiritual and beautiful inside and out as friends I have who are in man/woman relationships. I appreciate all of the info that you shared and it HAS been helpful to read. It is appreciated that you are open to share your words, and to read and hear from others who may agree or disagree… afterall, when we share our own opinion, we should be open to receive others’ opinions…and you have done so!

    Thanks again!!

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  19. ❤️

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  20. Brave! Beautiful! Girl! As a child of divorce, with a father who walked out – I understand so much of what you battled: not trusting men, wanting to be strong because you never want to be hurt like that. I think absentee father’s negatively impact their daughter’s the ways you describe. Trusting God made a huge difference – and He sent me one of those Godly men to marry, a man strong enough to love me through my brokenness – and one day, I realized I didn’t have to build walls and fight anymore. Your story of how God redeemed you, pulled you into His Father arms and helped you be the daughter He designed is such an awesome story of God’s amazing love!

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  21. Wow! This was so encouraging and thank you so much for being bold and vulnerable 🙂 It’s so refreshing to read this. Always pointing back to the Gospel, these are things my family of churches say as well – pointing others to Jesus.

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  22. I too appreciated how you shared. It takes a lot of courage to share as you did, and you pointed out some aspects I’d never considered before. In the end, sin is sin, and I am so grateful for the amazing ways God moves in the lives of those who yield to him. Thank you for sharing.

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  23. Indeed a lovely and brave testimony.

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  24. Thank you, and best wishes as you continue in your journey in His transforming love. I accept that some will find it difficult if not impossible to believe your testimony (” she’s in denial, pressuring herself into denying who she ‘really’ is”…or some such thing). It is unfortunately true that the reality of the mystery of God and the mystery of our Salvation continues to elude many, gay, and straight alike. Hard to believe any part of that story until it is experienced.

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  25. Thank you so much for your post. It was encouraging to read through. I’d really appreciate understanding what it looked like practically to “rely on God every moment of my life”. I want to be fulfilled in God as you sound like you are.

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  26. Thank you for having such an obedient heart and sharing this powerful testimony! Just a few days ago I watched the Dennis Jearnigan documentary “Sing Over Me”, and I was so moved. I believe God wants to redeem those who have struggled with same sex attraction/sexual identity, so when these incredible testimonies are bravely shared I know so many people will be blessed because His timing is perfect! My family and I have been visiting Grace Hills! It’s wonderful to know God is using you there:) Homosexuality, let alone gay marriage was absolutely unheard of in the small town I grew up in. I went to an even smaller church where the Bible was lovingly taught to me and where I accepted Christ. To this day I still do not know anyone personally who lives the LGBT lifestyle, but if I ever do, I pray I will exemplify Christ’s love and compassion the way you have.

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  27. Hello Christy Mac, as you should know, I am a member of the LGBT community and knew you several years ago. Your story is beautiful. I love and respect your perspective, and am very happy for you and all you have achieved. I am engaged to a gorgeous woman now so you can understand that I am thrilled with the Supreme Courts decision. Although I understand that you probably don’t support that decision, I loved your story for its diversity, and for educational biblical justification of marriage between a man and a woman. Have a safe 4th!

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    • Hey J Faulkenberry! I submitted a reply to you yesterday but I don’t think it went through. It’s great to hear from you! It put a smile on my face when I saw your name. Holler at me when you’re up my way! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and taking the time to read my post!

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  28. Beautiful.

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  29. Thanks for the article and the kind words to some of the replies. Blessings!

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  30. May God bless you and speak through your words to those who read your post!

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  31. Thank you Brave Christy for your posts. I pray others will read your words. May God continue to bless you…

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    • I appreciate everyone’s comments so much. Thank you all for your encouragement and support. For those that disagree with my stance, I appreciate your comments as well. They have been respectful, sincere, and heartfelt. I’m glad we can be open and honest with each other. Bringing things out in the light is how we learn to understand each other. Thank you all so much!

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  32. God Bless you Christy. It is a very brave of you to speak out on this very controversial issue. Expect to lose a few friends. I have for standing up to God’s Truth. No Christian I know hates gays. In fact we have counselled many over the years and some now attend our churches. Transformed! Yes our God is AMAZING! No what Christians hate is their audacity to overturn God’s definition of marriage. Not even those who love the Lord have the right to do that. I agree that most people are unaware of the unique symbolic parallel God has given marriage between a man and a woman and Christ and the Church. It’s never even mentioned in debate. I think too the word REPENTANCE is overlooked…we have all had to repent of sins that had hold of us before conversion. People only ever misquote ‘love one another’ from the Bible to justify gay marriage. There is far more to it than that. We will be changing the whole structure of society and I hate to think what impact this will have for future generations. Already kids today are disillusioned, suicidal and don’t see the point of living. If they understood our whole purpose is to honour and glorify God in our lives, they would have an eternal hope and future to look forward to, I also think what is overlooked is that it is natural for some people to have a “crush” on someone of the opposite sex when they are about 13 or so. This is a passing phase of puberty and was never a sexual desire in my day. It was merely someone you admired and aspired to be like. But with all the hype these days, anyone who experiences this, falsely thinks they must be gay and then get trapped in a lifestyle where they are miserable, and know to be a lie. The main thing though, which only Christians are aware of, is that this is a spiritual battle. The devil is trying feverishly to make a mockery of everything God has instituted. It is a sad sign of the times. And this is just another sign revealing the nearness of the Second coming of Christ. Money can’t buy the peace God gives those who trust and obey Him though. Blessings…

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  33. All though my story is different than yours, I too can relate to how transforming the love of God is. When you were talking about how you looked back ten years ago and you couldn’t believe how much your life has changed, that was very much me! I can see you have lots of encouraging comments but i wanted to throw mine in. I want to encourage you to keep sharing your story! I have no experience with LGBT and sometimes I struggle with the right response as I disagree but also want to love the person, and I find it all very confusing! God will use your story to touch people in a way that mine couldn’t. And that gives me comfort, to know that He is at work! All the best to you 🙂

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  34. Hello Christy. Thank you for your thoughtful blog entry.
    There is a belief by many Christians that you cannot lose your salvation, and that if you walk away from Christ later in life, you were never really a Christian to begin with.
    As far as being a lesbian, could the same thing be said? If you end up walking away from being a lesbian, were you really a lesbian after all? I don’t think based on your story that I could say all lesbians would be changed in their orientation by healing from Christ. Isn’t it possible that there are some people for which they are lesbian and that there is no healing needed or possible? Their orientation is not necessarily based on sin or wrong thoughts about their identity.
    As far as my story, it is somewhat in the reverse of yours. I became a Christian in my early 20s in college. I had a string of failed relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend and husband/wife and also friends) into my late 30s. Meanwhile including after my divorce 10+ years ago I walked with Christ, was involved with my small group of 12 years and I served Christ weekly at my Church. But the weight of my issue was affecting my relationships and life to the point where my life was very unhappy. You see, I was born a boy/man but my mind was that of a girl/woman. I spent my life trying to be what other people wanted me to be, a man. But I was not authentic and I was not happy. Nobody really knew me and I knew it. I was not truly myself and I was not loved except by Christ. I wish Christ could have healed me from this and this was a secret I could not hold onto anymore. About 18 months ago I made the decision to accept myself as a woman and to embrace it. As a result I am now on hormones, I am changing my name to Lauren, and I am enjoying some real friendships and hope someday to find a wife.
    I know many Christians such as maybe yourself would call this sin, like my parents do. I would say that for some people being gay, lesbian, or transgender is what you are born as. It was not part of God’s original plan before the fall / Adam and Eve but it is acceptable to make the best of our life in this mixed up situation. I would say there can of course be gay or lesbian people that are doing it for reasons that can be healed by God. Your experience could possibly be an example of that. But others this is tied to a wiring of your brain is what I believe. For transgender it is a pretty rare condition. But just as a physical defect at birth, a mental defect is out of our control and we should do what we can do to be well and live life. Christians assume transgender is wrong but they are going out on a limb and their theology in support of their belief is shaky at best. They should not turn away transgender people from the body of Christ. Being gay is another topic but this post is too long already. Please read the bible in a non-dogmatic way – there is a lot of sin by Christians aiming their judgment at transgender people. Minorities are easy for Christians to exclude from the discussion and they want to distance themselves from people that are different and they are treating us like there is no such thing as mental issues or mental health. Christians should not be legalistic and reject people just because they are different and it makes them uncomfortable. Instead, love and acceptance, are the way, and agree to disagree and leave the judgment to God. Allow transgender and gay people to worship and have fellowship in their church.
    In Christ,
    Lauren

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  35. I appreciate your position of grace and understanding. That’s a good thing! I think where this blog gets into trouble is when people want to take your experience and apply wholesale to THE GAY COMMUNITY. If there is a choice involved for you, it very well could be that you are in the middle of the attraction spectrum, attracted to both genders. It could be, and maybe not too. But for people to look at your experience and expect that your experience can be translated to the entire community is dangerous. Christians and believers: you have one and only one purpose for this situation that the vast majority of you cannot and will not EVER be able to relate to: love. This issue is so complex, so very far from what you can relate to, you have no place to advise or judge, and your attempts to “love the sinner and hate the sin” are turning people off to Jesus and what he stands for. Who did Jesus hate? The Pharisees, the rule followers who were judging everyone else…

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    • So who’s judging now……..
      Warm regards

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  36. Thank you for sharing your story. It is so refreshing to hear someone voice the same opinion I’ve had for years on loving someone in the gay community. My viewpoint has not been popular. If someone had come to me and told me that I needed to change my lifestyle BEFORE I could come to know Christ, I would never have come. Although I was not in a homosexual lifestyle, I was still in deep sin. I was loved into the kingdom. I was not judged or condemned, just accepted as someone Christ died for. He died for all. Do we want to see them come to know Christ? Love them as Christ would have loved them. Christ was known to dine with the sinners. If they had felt condemnation, instead of love, it wouldn’t have happened.
    I asked a gay friend, “If I treat you badly because you’re gay and you know I’m a Christian, would you think I’m bad or my God is bad?” He replied, “I’d think your God is bad”… How do I desire to represent God? In a good light or a bad light?

    The only situation I find sticky is when a gay friend asks me if I believe homosexuality is a sin… I stand on the truths of His Word and am often condemned by the gay community.

    Thanks again. It takes courage to share your testimony. We appreciate that!
    Kathy

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  37. And this is brainwashing at its best. She now not only believes in, but actually praises a malevolent and misogynistic male deity. The ulitmate battered spouse syndrome in ones own mind. A masterpeice of contempt and disdain for the LGBT community wrapped up in a package that disguises it’s immoral and divisive stance so the deluded can feel better about their hate and bigotry. This is how religion poisions everything.

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    • I’m sorry my post upset you. That was not my intention.Thank you for your honest response. I don’t expect everyone to understand where I’m coming from. This is my story and I felt compelled to share it. For what it’s worth, thank you for taking the time to read it.

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      • You don’t have to apologize for your testimony. This is what God did in your life to bring you true Joy and freedom from past hurts. Nobody can deny what is you testimony! I appreciate you sharing this, it takes courage to step up and face any persecution that may come. I pray that God will continue to strengthen you in your spirit as you press on.

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  38. Thank you so much for sharing the story of what God has done in your life! I’m sure it will impact many!

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  39. Beautifully written, you encouraged my heart, for we are to love the person not the sin. Many will not accept or even hear your heart, although the seed has been planted in some and watered in others. This is a spiritual battle, we do not need to fight, for we should know the outcome. I Corinthians 2:14 explains a lot to the believer. Thank you for sharing!

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  40. Christy! Girl, I love and miss you! I’m so glad to have read your incredible testimony above! YOU and others like you are the brave ones. Praise God for helping you through your sin just like He helps me through my sin everyday. Thank you for being courageous enough to tell your story!

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    • hey Cassie! long time no see!!! So good to hear from you! Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and for your sweet words of encouragement! :)) hopefully we’ll run into each other one of these days. I think you’re in my neck of the woods.;)

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  41. Dear Christy, thank you for writing this beautiful story of God’s light dissipating the darkness. I can see in it the strong love of God and His desire for everyone in the world. He wants union with us: “For God so loved THE WORLD that He gave…”
    You have encouraged me and so many!!

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    • Thank you so much for your encouraging words Yami! And thank you for taking the time to read it. 🙂 much love, christy

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  42. I am so glad to have read this. As a millennial Christian raised along with the push for equality, I have felt stuck on where my stance should be. I know God’s Word is clear about marriage, but I also empathize with friends in the LGBT community who genuinely feel they are born as homosexuals/other genders. I thought, ‘Who am I to tell them how they were created or what they knew about themselves as children?’ I have tried to find some kind of blurred lines in God’s Word to see if we’ve misinterpreted God’s design or intent, but the lines are quite clear. Your personal revelation and perspective helps my understanding so much. Regardless, I have love for this community and pray for my friends.

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    • Thank you so much for your kind words and for taking the time to read my post. Blessings to you!

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  43. Thank you for being bold and brave to share your story. What beauty and grace God is able to articulate through your life and words. Just wanted to say your story helped clarify his word and truth to me when loving those who identify with the LGBT community. Praying your story will speak volumes to those who God is working to soften their heart for him. I think the biggest disservice we can do to those outside of the church is create a wall between us and them, creating further division. While I believe we need to be firm on our beliefs, just seeing the hatred for people breaks my heart and I am sure breaks the heart of God also. Thanks again for sharing.

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    • Thank you so much for taking the time to read it and for your kind words. I appreciate you so much for your desire to love and break down walls.I have dear friends who disagree with my stance but we are still dear friends. I love my friends for their friendship, not for their stance or sexual preference. We agree to disagree.

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